Adolescents often have difficulty engaging in psychotherapy because they enter the process often without choice and feeling grossly misunderstood. Parents who take an active role in the process of family therapy can emit a feeling to their teenage child that "we are in this together," and may keep him or her from feeling they need to disprove their parents faulty claims about their sanity. Once engaged in treatment a therapist has the freedom to choose from several different approaches to working with families. Each method should have the impact of strengthening the therapeutic connection but more importantly, toward helping family members stay invested in the therapeutic process. Many times fathers are impatient with the perceived slow process of change when involved in family therapy. However, once they become aware that their participation frequently dictates the success and failure of therapy, they become more open to the possibilities that must unfold in an unforced way. That is to say, that a teenager is not simply going to suddenly become overtly open to sharing his or her inner world with his dad simply because he has been forced to share a space that's designed for that purpose. Instead, many teens are assessing their parents motive to determine what's in it for them. Is there an authentic interest on the part of the teens' parents to initiate change on their end or are they simply waiting for their son or daughter to "snap out of it." Families that view problems as a shared dilemma often fare much better than those that believe their teen must be "fixed" by a therapist. This nearly never is effective as therapist don't perceive teens as broken to begin with. They merely manifest the symptoms that are shared by other family members; most typically their parents.